Friday, November 6, 2009
A few days ago, I was talking to my friend on Skype. She's a friend of mine that we met during our Chinese studies in Shanghai. Now, I'm already back in my home country but she still lives in Shanghai with her caucasian boyfriend. My friend is 27 of age, her boyfriend is a 42-years old American man. (I won't mention names)
Her boyfriend is a very emotional person. He always needs an 'emotional encouragement'. If he did something good, he wants everyone to praise him. From stories that my friend has been telling me each day, I can justify that he's a very romantic dude. He loves to come home with surprises...like one day he brought roses and all kinds of gifts. My friend doesn't really fancy gifts & surprises as she thinks those craps are costly. Actually she wouldn't mind getting gifts and all if the man is filthy rich. But the thing is, he is not.
On other hand, my friend is the opposite of his characters. My friend was brought up in a thrifty environment, she doesn't like to splurge. She saves money..she's a good saver. She's very defensive, and she's getting more and more defensive since she has been living in Shanghai. She's more realistic than being a romantic woman.
They watch different movies, they eat different food, they like different things...until they realized that they have only a few things in common. All he needs is, a woman who can always support and encourage him emotionally even he did something wrong and someone who can always enjoy and indulge herself into some romantic fancy things. While my friend...she needs a man who has a financial sense to develop some sort of financial stability, less emotional and more realistic than being dreamy!
A few days ago, I was told that she finally broke up with her boyfriend. The reason of the break-up is because too many discrepancies between the two. She's not really the one that he would have wanted. He failed to turn her into someone he always wants. He's also not the one that she would have wanted and she failed to turn him into someone she has hoped. They expect different things in their relationship. They are like two love birds with different perspectives of life. They see things from different angle.
They did try though. They tried too hard to work on their relationship. He even wanted them to go to relationship counselor to consult about their mediocre relationship and seek into a warm and loving one. They spent too much time trying to change each other, they became frustrated until they hit the bottom line and they resorted to break up.
Well...everyone has their own love story. How about yours?
Lovingly written by Lilac Lavandre at 3:25 PM